I have been self employed since I was 38 and am very self confident. I am extremely busy with my job and my three young children. I am raising my kids alone, which is doable because I am self employed. But all I’m doing is working and looking after my kids, mommy needs to have some fun again before I end up in a burn out. I know what I want and that is a very “casual” affair, no strings, no drama, no obligations.